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Out of all the questions I'm asked this seems to be one of the most prominent, always rearing its head from guys with secret crushes on "this one lady" at work, school or even on the same train as them. Or perhaps they've been seeing someone for a while and are wondering if its the right time to tell her how much they love her. Lucky for you, if this is something you've been pondering recently or even in the past, its not such a difficult question to solve.
Now there are 3 very different variations of this question. The first is that you have just seen a girl you fancy, perhaps she has an amazing smile, a graceful walk or is just plain stunning. This is the kind of girl you think you could spend the rest of your life with (without even talking to her). This girl probably doesn't even know your name, but you still wish she was yours. Should you tell her, or just let her pass? The answer is easier than you think.
The 2nd variation is of a girl you've known for some time, she's a friend of yours perhaps, or just a coworker your interested in. You may have known her for 3 or more months but nothing really happened between the two of you, you want to tell her you like her so much but you just can't build up the courage. Fortunately this can be solved and without too much problem, although as you'll discover later on, you may not want to solve it at all.
The 3rd variation is of a girl your already dating, maybe you've been out on a few dates or even been seeing each other for a few months now, you want to tell her you love her so badly and that you'll do anything for her, you want to marry her and take her away to a remote island to live together. This is very common and unfortunately most guys screw this up badly ruining the dating and sending her running away faster than you can say "but I love you".
Now surprisingly the answers to all three variations are quite similar yet vastly different. If you have the problem of seeing a girl you like and wanting to talk to her yet she has no idea who you are you need to tackle this in a very succinct way. The one thing you must not do is walk straight up to her and confess your heart, she's a complete stranger and if you tell her how amazing and beautiful she is and how she makes your heart skip a beat yada yada yada she's going to think "oh so this guy just fell in love with my beauty, he doesn't even want to get to know me as a person, next!". Not only this but you come across as needy and having a much lower social value than her (in that you don't deserve to be with a women of her caliber). Instead to handle the situation just take it slow, say hi, and proceed from there, if you know what to say to her great, do that, if you don't you can find plenty of help on letsinspire.net.
If you've known this girl for quite some time it needs to be tackled far more tactically, as confessing your heart while your still working at her could make things awkward if she doesn't like you back in the same way. As such you should handle this pretty similarly to the 1st problem, get her friendship first at least (with a little bit of sexual tension of course), then ask her out for drinks or coffee or something, generally if she likes you she will go out with you, and if she doesn't she won't. If she won't join you for drinks (without a valid excuse) don't act like its a big thing, just act like you only wanted to go out as friends, accept that she most likely doesn't like you, and move on. There is one better way out of this situation than asking her out however, and that is to not tell her you like her, make friends with her and meet her friends, expand your social circle and possibly date them. Why do I suggest this option? Because there is nothing more awkward than working day in day out with someone you like who doesn't like you back, and there will constantly be tension and ill-comfort between the two of you in the workplace from the moment you tell her you like her. Now she may be awesome and everything but if you think about it there are more than likely over a million girls in your home city for you to date which will be far less uncomfortable than dating someone at work. I Honestly believe work should be kept separate from your dating life and the two should never mix. If however you know she likes you (perhaps through a mutual friend or VERY obvious signs) then go for it, make her day.
Now as for the third girl, this is the hardest one to solve as you never really know when is right to tell her how much you love her and pour your heart out. There is a big risk with this variation and unfortunately its where most guys blow it: If you are telling her you like her because she doesn't seem to like you much at the moment and you want her to like you more or fall in love with you DO NOT TELL HER, IT WON'T WORK. Girls will not suddenly fall in love with you by you telling them you love them, it takes time, they need comfort and attraction (both of which you can learn to build) before being able to fall in love, a few words ain't gonna do it. Ok so if you want to tell her you love her because you know she already loves you then read on. For a start NEVER start acting like a girl if you ever tell her you like her, don't get all soppy, don't act like she's the only thing that matters to you (she shouldn't, you should have other things going for you in life), and definitely don't go saying anything within at least the first 3 months of dating (I'd say 6 months if your only casually dating rather than having a relationship). Now the best way to let her know is of course at the right moment, don't go all soppy and tell her you love her in the middle of the day at work, nor tell her during sex (which is actually one of the worst times, because often then she feels you only want her for sex and only like her for her looks). Take her out somewhere special and tell her then. Most of all be a man, tell her just like you mean it but don't act like a wussy, and DO NOT tell her in order to get her to "like you" more, this WILL NOT WORK, tell her if you mean it and know she likes you as much in return.
There is just one more rule that must ALWAYS be obeyed when telling a girl you like her, unfortunately it's too big for here though you can read more about it at: http://www.letsinspire.net/blog/2007/the-one-thing-you-must-never-ever-do-around-women/